Discipline

We have entered a new season as a family. It is such a good season for us, marked by a refreshed sense of God's Presence in our lives on a daily basis. Chad and I are learning so many new things about the Lord. Much of what He is teaching me these days has been hard to hear. Lately His truths have felt like the nearly blinding brightness that hits your eyes when you walk from a darkened room into the broad daylight. You know what I mean?? It's when someone tells you the Truth and it steps all over your toes but you can't reject it because your spirit knows that you need to hear it and be trained by it.

So here's the word that's been defining this season in my life:
Discipline.

Enter, exhibit A: One year old Anna Grace Lee, the cutest little tool for sanctification to ever enter my life (besides my husband, of course...but that's a post for another day!) Whew, God is using this little girl to reveal my sin these days! Off-and-on for two weeks now, Anna Grace has dealt with extreme restlessness and teething pain at night (Especially between the hours of, oh...midnight and 4 AM...) It is especially hard these days because we are living in an apartment and I don't want to be disruptive to the neighbors. As I hold her, rock her, walk with her, nurse her, and try to comfort her to sleep for hours on end, many times I have felt frustration and anger rise up inside me. I see glimpses in those wee small hours of the morning of my old sin-nature, who I am without the saving and sanctifying grace of Jesus Christ. It is NOT pretty, folks!! I lose patience so quickly and I feel sorry for myself so readily. God has been so faithful to correct me in those moments when I hit rock bottom. He reminds me of His Father's heart, and of His own patience and long-suffering with me. He forgives me again and again for all my sins and failures because, when He looks at me, He sees His child...brought near to Him through the sacrifice of His Son. How could I not, in light of His marvelous grace, have grace for my own child in her weakness? And, inevitably, after that correction from the Lord, a worship lullaby rises up from my heart and my voice. The Holy Spirit's presence fills the room with peace, and both of us girls are comforted by our Daddy.

During her waking hours, Anna Grace's personality is really forming, and she is beginning to exert her desire for independence. She is walking and talking and it is such a joy to see her development! She is also beginning to misbehave and test the limits. We will tell her that something is "not okay" to touch, and, with a mischiveous look in her eye, she returns to the item that is off-limits, just to see if she an get away with touching it again. At one year old, she is successfully demonstrating the truth that all of us, at our core, are disobedient children. Since the fall, every single person is born spiritually dead and separated from God by sin. Without God's intervention through Jesus' death on the cross, we all are destined to go our own way, 'be our own gods,' and do whatever feels 'right' to us.
Isaiah 53:6 says "All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned-every one-to his own way; and the LORD has laid on him the iniquity of us all."

The last part of that verse offers the hope that we ALL need. Children are not born knowing Gospel Truth. Christian parents are given the responsibility to raise their children in an environment that makes their hearts fertile soil for the Gospel to
take root and lead them to the salvation found only in Christ Jesus.
Christian discipline is absolutely essential to children's understanding of the Gospel. Christian discipline also flies in the face of the way the world says to parent.

The world has many different philosophies to offer parents. One of the most popular philosophies these days is that which says "Developing your child's self-esteem is your most important job as a parent. Children should, above all, feel good about themselves." Parents who buy into this philosophy wind up catering to their child at every turn, and create a child-centered family.

We have all seen those families...The children are running the household...and running the parents ragged by their disobedience. It is clear to see that child-centered households are not good for the parents, but it doesn't take much to see that growing up with the belief that "it's all about me" is not good for the children either.

The Biblical model for parenting calls Christian parents to a much higher goal: we are to be teaching our children right from wrong based upon the absolute Truth of the Bible. We are to be pointing out their sin and how incapable they are of doing the right things on their own. We are to be pointing out their need for a Savior. And, we are to be pointing them to the One who can save their souls....Jesus Christ.

Proverbs 13:24 says "Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him." The use of corporal punishment is definitely debated these days, so I'm not going there in this post (to do so runs the risk that the larger message will be lost, and because Chad and I are still praying and studying the best methods of discipline). However, this verse brings up the point that, if we love our children, we WILL discipline them. We MUST show them their need for the Savior, because leading them to Him is the most loving thing we could ever do for our children. I have been convicted by this calling to parent Biblically, and Chad and I are committed to learning from the Lord and the wisdom of other believers as to how to walk this calling out.

Lastly, I wanted to share Hebrews 12:6-11. It says,
"It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live? For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness. For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it."

The fact that God disciplines us should give us joy, because it is a reminder that He is treating us as His children. He wants what is best for us, and He loves us too much to give us over to our sin. Hallelujah! Often when I am in a season of intense sanctification as I am now, and God is highlighting sin in many areas of my heart and life, I feel a strange kind of satisfaction...like His heart is pleased with me. I feel secure in His love not in spite of the discipline, but because of it. He hasn't given up on this work He began in me.

At many points in the old testament it talks about how God is like a refiner of silver...The process that gold and silver refiners went through in that day is very interesting. Refiners would melt the silver over the very center of a fire where the flames are the hottest, in order to burn away the impurities. The refiners had to sit in front of the silver for the entire process so that they could remove the silver from the heat at just the right time. How did they know when to remove it from the heat? When the surface reflected the refiner's face, it was finished.
Zechariah 13:9 says
"And I will put this third into the fire, and refine them as one refines silver, and test them as gold is tested. They will call upon my name, and I will answer them. I will say, 'They are my people'; and they will say, 'The LORD is my God.'"

It is my prayer that we, as children of God, will submit to His perfect discipline in joy, knowing that it is for our good and because He loves us! I also pray that those of us who are parents will be led by God as we discipline the children we have been entrusted. And, finally, it is my prayer that my daughter sleeps tonight. ;-)